In high school, I heard boys say they hate those girls who think every boy who talks to them is chatting them up. Unfortunately, I’m one of those girls, so I didn’t get much ‘action’ so to speak.
Truth is, I just don’t understand the whole girl-guy thing apart from the basics of babymaking. I mean a guy sees a girl, says hi, talks a bit, asks her out. Why? What does he gain from it if not candy? I suppose there’s something to be said for intelligent conversation and good food, but I find it hard grappling the concept that somebody would want to spend time and money on me just to hear me talk. Especially if he’s heard my voice.
A guy meets, what, a hundred women every day. What is it about this one woman that makes him want to see her again? Or does he just ask each one until somebody says yes? I’m not being satirical here, these are genuine questions. I’ve never been asked out before, so I don’t know how these things work. And the fact that I was asked for drinks by someone who met me at a pool and said 100 words to me, then showed up at my office without even knowing my name, does not inspire confidence. I like the guts though.
You wonder why I said yes? Well, he’s an interesting guy. He’s a gifted writer, I’ve seen his work, and I like writers. I hope to talk philosophy and poetry and the meaning of life, but I can’t believe that’s all the boy has in mind for me…considering we met at the pool, and considering I know a lot more about him than he does about me – turns out he’s google-able.
For a while now, I’ve suspected regular guys find me a little…intimidating. I never get attention except from watchies, kanges, morans, truck drivers, and middle-aged bosses, which is hardly flattering, since guys like that follow anything with milk. And the times I do ask out regular guys, they run away.
So it makes sense that the first viable guy to want my attention would be a mature, accomplished, New Yorkan. It makes sense, doesn’t mean I’m happy about it. Plus, according to google, his wife is young, local, and lives in my neighbourhood. These girls are scary!
I’ve been on a few dates, but it was always me that did the asking and it was always because I was interested in the person horizontally, so I have trouble grasping other kinds of meal sharing.